I recently began listening to a podcast called “One Extraordinary Marriage”. It’s recorded by a really cute, highly-entwined couple that talk about marriage, kids, relationships, etc.
Their very first episode (which was recorded like 6 years ago), is about a 60 day challenge that they did together.
A 60 day sex challenge.
And yes, it’s exactly as it sounds. They had sex for 60 days straight.
I don’t know about you Mamas, but at the end of the day after chasing kids, homeschooling, dishes, cooking, cleaning, laundry, walking dogs, pushing swings, gymnastics classes, wiping bottoms, building lego-cities, vacuuming cracker crumbs and everything else in between – it’s very rare for me to slip under the covers and think “man! I can’t wait to exhaust my last 7.5 minutes of energy on sex”.
And let me just preface this by saying: this has NOTHING to do with my husband. I love my husband, I enjoy being intimate with my husband. He does everything right. And wrong. (wink wink)
But man! Being a mom is exhausting! And sometimes it’s really hard to remember that we can’t put our sex life on the back burner just because we are tired.
I think we are a pretty typical married couple. We’ve been married 8 years this summer, we have two children, jobs, responsibilities and everything else relatively average. And as far as sex, I think we are also fairly boring.
Twice a week is pretty much the norm.
Don’t get me wrong, Ryan makes the moves just about every night (and morning, and nap time, and whenever I’m wearing yoga pants).
But I pretty much dictate when the hanky panky takes place, depending on my level of energy left at the end of the night.
But ladies, I gotta be honest. I’m tired of this same routine.
I’m tired of being too tired.
I get irritated with myself and feel guilty that I don’t always desire to have sex with my husband. This hunky man that sleeps by my side every night would do anything to have sex with me. And I shut him down way more often than I like to admit out loud.
And again, not because I don’t love him. Or I don’t love having sex with him.
Just because I’ve run out of steam.
And so…I listened to this podcast about two weeks ago. And I was intrigued, to say the least.
After listening to how the woman felt about their sex life (which was basically the same way I feel. Phew. I’m normal), I came to a realization.
I don’t want to be like this anymore.
I want to spend all day thinking about when I get to be intimate with my husband at the end of the day.
I want to anticipate sex with my husband.
I desire to please Ryan. And not just only on my terms if I’m feeling up for it. But also because it makes my husband happy and it’s his number one love language.
I also think it’s important for my husband (and all husbands) to know that sometimes rolling over and touching my [cute] bottom isn’t going to instantly put me in the mood. He also needs to speak to my love languages in order for me to get in the mood.
Guys forget that we can’t turn it on quite as easily. And sometimes they have to work for it a little bit harder. or a little bit longer. or in languages other than cave man grunts.
And so…after praying about it (and questioning if I’m truly INSANE), I told Ryan that I started listening to a podcast and I wanted him to hear it, too.
I didn’t tell him what it was about. He had no warning. In fact, at first he wasn’t really interested in listening!
We laid in bed together and listened to the episode where the couple discuss their 60 day challenge.
But after the first few minutes, I’m pretty sure Ryan was internally giggling like a 14 year old girl that just won Justin Bieber tickets.
On the outside, he was trying really hard to play it cool.
After discussing all the rules and technicalities (what happens during my period, what do we do when I go to Vegas in June, the second mortgage we need to take out in order to purchase 60 condoms), we decided we were gonna go for it…!!!
Someone call a medical doctor, there’s a good chance I’ve had an aneurysm.
And when you’re done, say a prayer for me.
I don’t know what this is going to look like.
There are no excuses. We will not say ‘no’.
We are ready to get creative! And sneaky!
And believe it or not, we’re really excited!
And by the way…we’re starting tomorrow!!!
Let me know if you want to join us.
Not literally join us. that’s weird.
But join in your own 60 day challenge!
We are expecting nothing less than to radically change our sex life and our marriage!